Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

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I’ve read 90+ books this year. But THIS is the book that will change my life. My “word” for this year was boundaries. I slowly but surely worked to set up healthy boundaries in all sorts of areas in my life: family, physical health, and friendships. I was ending this year feeling way healthier mentally than ever before. This book being the “bookend” to my year is so fitting. I was reassured all the work I did this year personally was worth it. I am moving in the right direction to be a better version of not me, but of Jesus! The way Lysa writes about how God set up boundaries gave me the insight I needed to keep pressing on into 2023. To keep setting up boundaries in life and relationships that are going to keep me on the path He has for me.

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes | Lysa TerKeurst

Join #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst as she helps you stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing you biblical ways to set boundaries—and, when necessary, say goodbye—without losing the best of who you are. If you are a fan of Lysa Terkeurst and of self-help books (in this case spiritual), and are in need of setting some boundaries, then I definitely recommend reading this book. I will leave this review with just a few more of my favorite quotes.The best parts of each chapter were written by her therapist, Jim Cress. Simply put, Lysa didn’t offer us anything new that hasn’t already been covered in Cloud and Townsend’s Boundaries book. Terkeurst’s book is highly respectful of her faith and people. As a Christian author, Terkeurst constantly finds ways to work-in respect for God; this may turn away some readers, but this is perfectly acceptable for her target audience. Additionally, despite her experience, Terkeurst does not talk about people, spouses, or those who hurt her in a disrespectful way. Instead, she expresses hope that those who cause harm grow and find emotional healing. I came out of this book feeling hopeful for myself and others, and I think most other readers will have a similar experience. Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that’s no longer safe or sustainable? Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

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Christians should read it with a strong commitment to their marriage, especially if they are in crisis. Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that’s no longer safe or sustainable? Lysa has asked these hard questions in the midst of her own relational struggles.

But other people will never be able to fill that empty feeling inside of you. Only God can do that. So the foundation of any good relationship has to start with you having a good relationship with yourself and with God. It’s my responsibility not to let another’s personal actions and expectations wear me down to the worst version of myself.” I loved at the end how she went over passages in scripture that people tend to use incorrectly, and she went over what they actually mean in context.