Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free

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Terri Cole says, "You have an obligation to yourself that no one gets beyond the velvet rope without your express permission" which is fair and true but my problems are rigid boundaries. Until next time, stay on your game and keep going for your big dreams, because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have. So, one example for saying no, speaking of saying no, “I have other priorities but I’m sending you good vibes to figure this one out. It also mentioned that relationships are a give and take and what healthy boundaries are (not too rigid or too flexible). The first is doing a deep dive into what's okay with you versus what's not okay with you in all areas of your life.

Now in her new book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free , Cole shares how women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling can regain their power. Where, between the bookers, I was negotiating contracts for supermodels and celebrities with Pantene and movie deals and those types of things.Terri Cole: We, we definitely do not need the machete, but what is interesting is that in all the scripts, because I gave every scenario you could find yourself in, from in-laws, to neighbors, to narcissists, to everybody, you can make them your own.

And she’s like, “Well, we can’t agree to that, Terri, because I literally am not God and I have no idea what your sister needs to learn. In the beginning when you start getting these skills or when you’re vacillating, which is what Marie describes.The other way, because you also said, “If I draw a boundary, I feel guilty and I worry that they’ll be offended. I was like, “Well, I don’t know, you might feel empty for lots of reasons but just because you don’t fight actually doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re being seen or heard or known, that you are deeply connected to this person.

And say, “You know, Betty, I love that you always think of me and I always think to ask me these things, like it makes, it really makes me so happy that you do and yet I can’t go on Sunday to whatever, but thank you. Terri Cole: Well, first thing, the reason why I even wrote it that way and started doing this with my clients was that women would come in to see me, and I would ask them, you know, “What is your preference about this and what brings you joy? And we also have sentence starters where, listen, if it’s someone who I love, then I, then I want to start with something positive. I actually, I’m going to interrupt you to read that because it’s so genius and then we’ll go right back to you. Right from an early age, many girls are taught to serve and to please, to accept that boys and men are more important and to put them first.There's a process that I walk the reader through where we are going into the basement of your mind, which is your unconscious mind. I wish I could give this book six out of five stars because Cole has written a magnificent literary aid for self-awareness/governance all women should read. To move past this, the first thing you have to do is to look at where your self-esteem is coming from. I can still have boundaries and be in service to people, these 2 principles can go hand in hand, you just have to be smart about managing expectations. PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.