Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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Whatever the answer, my New Year's Resolution is to stop worrying about other people and learn to love and accept myself. Uma mensagem por e-mail será enviada antes do término do período gratuito, que pode ser cancelado a qualquer momento.

I'm also keen to read Leslie Irvine's Codependent Forevermore, which is an even-handed critique of CoDA and the recovery moment in general. Priešingai, ji siekia tiesiog paglostyti tave ir patikinti - tu viską darai gerai, nieko tokio, visiems nutinka, svarbu per daug nesikankinti.But by following their advice, Beattie learned that “feelings are not facts,” as the old AA saying goes. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart. Although a lot of the book does seem like it focuses on helping the codependent wives of alcoholics, there is just as much support for husbands who fall into the same patterns of servitude to their spouse's disease. We adopt a policy of keeping our hands off other people's rsponsibilities and tend to our own instead. For anyone who has a history of alcoholism in their family of origin or going through alcoholism with a partner this is a MUST read.

One of the most interesting, and least explored, concepts covered in the chronology or pattern of behavior. Kad iš esmės tai terapinė knyga, ji nespaudžia tavęs atpažinti savo problemą ir save kaip blogą ar pamatyti, kad tai, ką tu laikei normaliu elgesiu, nėra normalu. We start by taking responsibility for our lives – not just the day-to-day problems, but also all our spiritual, emotional, and physical needs.

In time, you’ll learn to better cope with your problems, trust yourself, and actually begin to feel your own feelings instead of someone else’s. My criticisms would be that it seems very dated in places, and she does like to use the word "God" when I would've preferred her to use Higher Power, however, that should not diminish the significance or importance of this book. How I understood it , was that it’s okay to want and desire a relationship but you cannot let it dictate your life and whilst people can meet your needs we shouldn’t depend on it , we can only depend on ourselves by honouring ourself and asking ‘what do I need ‘.

The cultural phenomenon that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. While there may be a steep learning curve at first, meeting these needs will be a fulfilling and rewarding journey. When you're beaten down and feeling trapped and you don't know what the hell is wrong with you, you need this book, which tells you over and over and over and over again: You're okay, you're a good person.This book very gently shows that your not a failure but you do need to work on yourself not the other person. The husband, dependent on the alcohol, is hampered in his ability to overcome alcoholism because of his codependent wife. Maria was married to an alcoholic, and she tried to control her husband’s drinking by always being present. This book opened my eyes to the path toward self-discovery, self-love, and learning how to deal with difficult relationships.