Men In Love

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This is nothing less than an anthology of sexual baggage and my hat is off to the men who wrote in with such honesty and courage. An extraordinary, explicitly masculine journey, Men In Love develops a startlingly honest portrayal of what it means to be a man in contemporary America. It is shocking to me how many of the men contributing, had sex in childhood or early adolescence - with adults or older adolescents as well as with other children, and not uncommonly with family members. Men in Love goes beyond the socio-sexual cliché of woman seen as either madonna or whore to reveal the conflict of love and rage at the centre of men's emotions and erotic desires.

I try to keep an open mind, but that doesn't mean that I have to put up with more than I can, so understandably I skipped over some chapters (the amount of men fantasizing about doing their mothers or other female relatives is too damn high! Of special note; The author, Nancy Friday, answered a few questions to People magazine in response to Men In Love. Coming out of a lifetime of predominantly heterosexual feelings and actions, many men are bewildered, puzzled and dismayed to find themselves heated by notions of including another male in their eroticism. Forever after men sense the forbidding shadow of the primitive, preoedipal mother behind every woman to whom they are attracted. Friday's commentary and skipped the fantasies themselves, and gotten the same amount of psychological insight out of the book - and saved myself a fair amount of time and disgust.

While the focus of these questions relate to fantasies and are not specific to men, she responds to questions frequently asked to sexuality professionals. Friday said she got very few rape fantasies among her submissions, though I think her definition of what constitutes a rape fantasy may be significantly narrower than mine because she said she got only 3, and I counted several more than that in the book.

This book could be used to stimulate conversation with others about a behavior or fantasy you might like to explore, as a way to normalize thoughts you may hold, or as an erotic read. Child psychiatrists now think sex is not so much slumbering as it has learned to hide itself more successfully from mother’s anxious eyes. and forget her, their friendship and feelings of masculinity somehow reinforced at the woman’s expense. It isn’t so much that these men use women to get to other men as that they need the woman to help break through the guilt barrier that blocks them from their feelings about other men. I'd be lying if I had said I'd never thought of something wild and inappropriate while in a relationship.Friday's worldview is heavily colored by Freudian psychoanalysis, and Freud can die in a fire as far as I'm concerned, so I was often dubious and critical of her analyses, most of which stemmed from the following idea: boys want to have sex with their mothers, and view their father as a sexual rival who they're afraid will castrate them. It is an old Freudian model that relies upon familial conditioning to explain something that is as indelible as the color of one's eyes.

no signs of cover wear, clean glossy, pages clean, bright and unmarked, spine tightListing Includes Books Image. My conclusion is, if you are sensitive and of course a woman and can be slightly envious then just LEAVE this book alone and go for Nancy Friday's "My Secret Garden" instead or "Forbidden Flowers" which is more about women's fantasies, then maybe you'll be more prepared and can move on to Men in love. By using the Web site, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to be bound by the Terms and Conditions. Friday is pretty much unsufferable and I'd cheerfully string her up and apply a cane to her for making such idiotic assumptions about women, and engaging in quite some downtalking to men.

The wonderful part about the section where straight men fantasize about sex with men is that it shows two things at once--men who identify as straight and men who at the same time fantasize at times about sex with other men. Her view is that homosexuality is the result of a boy denying to himself that he wants to have sex with his mother, either out of shame or because his mother is "pure," and also fearing being harmed (especially castrated) by his father, an impossible rival, for wanting to have sex with his mother. Nancy Friday, best-selling author of feminist and erotic literature, psychoanalyst and socio-sexual historian, has been the leading witer on women’s and men’s sexual fantasies since the publication of her first best-selling erotic book, My Secret Garden . She gave them a legitimate arena where they could share their "secret gardens" -- the hidden and forbidden but nonetheless real and true. Depending on what type of person you are you may find this quite shocking, even Nancy Friday admitted to not knowing what to think of one of the fantasies in this book and goes to consult two other fellow psychologists on one occasion.