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As time passes, more and more extreme stimuli is needed to get the same rush as the first hit (Like drugs and gambling). When it comes to Findom, the intensity of the rush is directly proportional to the amount of money being sent. I feel trapped, I feel lost, I honestly am close to giving up with even trying to quit, it feels impossible. I actually stopped for about 2 months before this but as usual I eventually relapsed again. I’ll explore individual stories more later in interviews. But for now, I will spend some time exploring how I believe the problems work from a theory perspective. Being an addict means you’re not in control of your own actions. Which means that enabling their addiction for profit is non-consensual. And they’re hardly a Perfect Ten. Most findoms present as average-looking young women with marked superiority complexes. If a Plain Jane acts unobtainable, puts herself above the man and doesn’t accept him in a romantic sense…then, in his eyes, she’s practically Gatsby’s Daisy!
Whilst we like to think of ourselves as sophisticated, modern creatures, the brutal reality is actually that human beings are still running the same “firmware” that we used over 200,000 years ago. We are still somewhat hardwired for surviving on the Savannah plains of Africa and unfortunately, many of the deep routed psychological habits we developed for dealing with that life harm us in today’s complicated modern world.For those that want a dominant will pose as a “therapist” to roleplay giving help but actually just making the “addict” give more. For example :- The exchange is about power and control, a push-pull relationship in which the rich or powerful man gives up his power to the woman, who is free to demand whatever she desires. You may think the domme can never have more power than the man is willing to give her, but the big problems come with addiction when the man can no longer control what power he is handing over, compelled to give more and more. The devastation this creates in his life includes: It’s all about her. Financial subs don’t expect to have sex with their “goddess.” Instead he promises to be in a findom’s life strictly for her profit and pleasure. This is never a two-way street. There isn’t a problem with this mechanism as such – but there is a problem with using it too much. It’s entirely possible for brains to become addicted to the things that cause it and to want and chase the feelings from those as much as possible. To the fellow who sexually responds to a cruel, greedy woman, this is exactly what he needs. He may have a wife and kids who love and depend on him — but producing for a bratty, demanding, unobtainable woman is what drives him.
It’s their own fault! They send the money willingly!”If this is what you’re thinking right now, this only shows that you don’t understand addiction. Because addicts can’t give consent. Pay attention to when feel the need to use. For me, it's when I'm feeling bad about myself and my life, or when things have gotten so overwhelming that I want to erase myself. I've heard it said that the best way to overcome an addiction is have a great life. Find something your passionate about. Social media is well known to use this process. When you post something, whether it be a picture, a joke or anything else, the act of getting likes, reactions and shares feels good. You feel connected to other people. You feel validated, supported and loved.
There is obviously the spike in dopamine that comes from sexual activity and orgasm but there are other chemicals at play in sexual activity such as, nitric oxide and in particular oxytocin – which is another “feel good” chemical, often associated with being in love and lust. Depression, is an extremely complicated area of mental health and one which I’ll put my hands up and say I know very little about. What I speak about here is certainly going to be a little uninformed and mostly my opinion and observation. Not chipped in on an evening with friends. Unable to buy presents. Changing your grocery list to less expensive options. A lot of Findoms are college graduates who are trying to pay off their student loans. Most of them aren’t particularly interested in the kink. Most of them aren’t getting turned on by taking money off of men (Even if they say they are). But they are getting excited by all the free money. (In fact, it’s not only the Paypigs who get addicted, it can also be the Findoms themselves) A draw or trigger to participate (this can literally just be “feeling horny” once addiction has set in)
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